That is a question that many people ask themselves when they are confronted with problems in their relationship. Love is all well and good at the beginning when you are both intoxicated with each other. Over time, your real characters begin to emerge and that is when love can start to look challenging – is this really the person you will be spending the rest of your life with?
To know whether you really love your significant other you have to accept that they are human and just like you, are fallible. Everyone, even the sweetest and kindest, has a side to them that they don’t reveal when they first fall in love. That is how we are naturally programmed. If we were to reveal our real character when we first met a mate we would never get to recreate which is what nature is all about. As a person in a relationship, this is something that you have to come to terms with.
As you struggle to cope that your spouse or partner is not all sugar and spice you also have to understand that they are doing the same as you. They can see over time that that there are traits you possess that are not very admirable and they have to learn to cope with them.
This brings us to the obvious question – does this mean that we shouldn’t try and change for the better so that we can be more acceptable to our partners? This is where most people get tripped up. When they realize that there is something that there partner isn’t happy about they don’t make the effort to change it because they think that they should be accepted as they are. That is only true to some extent. If there is certain behavior that you can change you must do your ultimate best to try and change it.
You should also reassure your partner that you are working on it so that they feel that you are making an effort. The attempt to change is enough to assure them that you want your relationship to be better. Do you think this ultimate love test will help you have a better relationship in the future?