When you settle in to watch the reality show Survivor, you probably aren’t expecting to get any premarital advice.
For the first time in several seasons, all three of the program’s finalists were women. In most cases, this would be awesome, but the finalists all made some pretty nasty allegations against each other. One in particular probably resonated with anyone who is getting ready to marry someone with kids and therefore about to become a stepparent.
Finalist Missy Payne was attacked verbally and called the wicked stepmother of the tribe. This is everyone’s fear: becoming that evil stepparent!
There seems to be loads of advice out there for women marrying men with children, but what about for guys? We thought we’d put together some premarital advice for men marrying women with kids – daughters to be specific.
Here are some rules you should keep in mind, especially if you don’t have daughters of your own:
- Learn to like chick music. If you’re marrying a woman with daughters, chances are you’re going to have to get used to girlie songs. It won’t hurt for you to download the latest Lady Gaga and Katy Perry songs right now!
- Just because you’re a dude doesn’t mean you can’t be an evil stepmother! Okay, so you would technically be an evil stepfather, but that’s beside the point. Be fair. Be fun. These girls are also yours now, even though you won’t ever replace their dad.
- Don’t be a baby. Follow your own advice. If you don’t get something you want, don’t whine about it. Compromise. It’s the way the world works.
- You must share Mom! Just because you’re marrying Mom doesn’t mean you get to hog her all day, every day. She still has an obligation to her children. If you can’t understand that, maybe it’s not a good idea to get married in the first place.
- Accept the fact you will never understand little girls. Little girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice, right? Well, there are a bunch of secret ingredients in there, too! They’ll have fits – of tears, tantrums, and giggles – and they’ll paint your toenails while you sleep.
If you’re getting ready to marry a woman with kids, have you prepared yourself for becoming a stepparent?
