Marriage is a circus: have some premarital advice
This week, the much-anticipated American Horror Story franchise returns for its third season, ‘Freak Show.’ The popular and very twisted new series takes place in 1950s Jupiter, Florida with a circus freak show at its heart.
The characters are nothing less than what we might hope: a two-headed woman, the Bearded Lady, the Lobster Boy and of course, a killer clown. The show stars the likes of Kathy Bates, Angela Bassett, Frances Conroy and the spectacular Jessica Lange.
As we settle into this fall season to watch the horrors at the freak show unfold, we can’t help but be reminded that often, our own lives are a complete and utter circus. Especially when it comes to romance.
When we decide to get married, our own freak show may come to light – from place settings to thank you notes, many of us wonder, is it all worth it?
Premarital advice to make the circus a little calmer
A marriage is the ultimate long-term relationship – and if you’re married long enough with kids you may wonder if you’re really the ringmaster in your own circus freak show.
Feeling like you’re in a freak show isn’t any fun; no matter how much you like the circus. Your marriage should be rewarding and a safe place for you mentally and emotionally. So, is there any premarital advice that newly engaged couples should know?
Soul mates? Not really
First and foremost, you should know that your fiancé is probably not your soul mate. For many people, the idea just doesn’t exist – and it doesn’t have to. The idea of star-crossed lovers is a sweet one, but it isn’t real life. Love is never what you expect it to be, so be ready for that!
There is no getting around it: love changes the longer you have it. It will never be the same as when you first started dating. You can keep the romance aflame, but you both need to put in the work. The ups and downs of a marriage aren’t always a bad thing. Just remember, if there are more downs, it’s time to take a closer look.
Don’t argue in public
There’s no need to give the impression that everything is hunky dory, but you shouldn’t air your grievances in public – ever. That means no retaliation on Facebook and staying off Twitter. Don’t detail the argument; talk about it to each other when you’ve both cooled off.
Keeping these little bits of advice in mind may definitely keep your circus attractions to a minimum!