When a couple gets engaged, relationship counseling isn’t usually on the top of their to-do list. However, when we see that a Hollywood couple has decided to get married, we can’t help but wonder if it is something they should do.
Take Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden, for example. The couple has decided to get hitched. Diaz, 42, is no longer going to be known as Hollywood’s most eligible bachelorette and Good Charlotte’s Madden, 35, is the lucky guy!
The two have been dating for seven months and no wedding date has been set. Do you think this marriage will last? Here are some tips for avoiding the need for relationship counseling in the first place.
- Make the relationship your priority. You’ve got to make the mental shift from “me” to “we”. You are now part of a team, and you’ve got to act like it. Now is the time to make sure that your spouse comes first. Your marriage is your anchor relationship, after all.
- Make some rituals together. You might have busy lives, but it is important to make time for each other. Doing something that bonds you on a regular basis is critical. This could be simple things like chatting for ten minutes before bed, listening to music, or having a Friday night date night.
- Check in once a day. Businesses succeed because they hold regular meetings and know what’s going in in daily operations, and you should do the same with your marriage. Check in on a daily basis and you might soon find that you appreciate each other even more.
- Set simple but healthy boundaries. Setting healthy boundaries with friends and family can go a long way in protecting a relationship. For example, how will you handle the holidays? Do you plan to start your own tradition or visit each other’s families? Stay connected, just at a distance; you’ll thank us later.
How do you keep your relationship healthy? Have you tried counseling?