Although it doesn’t help ease the pain of being apart for lengthy periods, many of the country’s most patriotic brands are offering deep discounts and even freebies to active service members this Veterans Day. If you’re a military ID cardholder, you might be able to get a free haircut, a free meal, a free coffee, or even work out at a local gym for free.
These freebies are great but they don’t really offer up any useful long distance relationship advice for military couples. Military marriages, although often filled with love and respect, can be particularly grueling because couples are often separated by long deployments.
How can military couples actually cope? Here’s a bit of real long-distance relationship advice:
- Avoid blame. Don’t place blame on each other, especially on the deploying service member. In most cases, this isn’t a choice but rather a duty. Constantly complaining about the separation might only add fuel to the fire during this particularly stressful time.
- Stay in touch. Make an effort to stay in contact with your loved one as much as possible. Some military installations offer free telephone communications, email, and video chats. Take advantage of these methods and keep each other up-to-date on the goings on in your lives.
- Stay positive. It’s hard to stay positive when you are missing the love of your life, but try your best. Staying upbeat, especially when you do have the chance to talk, is important. You don’t have to lie and pretend that you’re happy, but don’t burden your partner with guilt. Keep in mind that your loneliness might pale in comparison to what your partner is feeling.
- Don’t cheat! This is sound advice for any couple, and it’s especially true if one of you is deployed. Cheating can kill the trust, respect, and love in any relationship. Just don’t do it.
- Stay busy. Go ahead and volunteer your time, meet with friends, and keep yourself occupied. Staying busy while you are separated can help pass the time a lot easier.
Are you involved in a long distance relationship? Were you in a long distance relationship at some point? What worked for you? What advice can you offer to fellow readers here?